i believe that people everywhere, of all ages, of any skin colour, of any gender can connect. it's a matter of whether they want to.
we are connected in so many different ways. with lovers, with friends, with family, with workmates. every connection is different, yet so similar. every good connection is built on good communication - listening more than talking.
who was it who said something about humans being given two ears and one mouth, and thus should listen more than they speak?
i think it makes a fuckload of sense.
that said, communication should not require alot of effort. if you are naturally interested in someone, you will naturally want to know more about this person, or hear what this person has to say. this goes the same for any friendship. if this basic level of communication is not present, then it is an indication of an inevitable lack of genuine interest.
which, nobody can do anything about.